In the first year off my benzo, I had to cope with new symptoms appearing from time to time. At first, I was overwhelmed when something new showed up. I was terrified that I’d forever be adding more symptoms to my already lengthy list. I could hardly cope with what was already on my plate, let alone cope with anything new. However, as time went on and some symptoms went away, I stopped being afraid of new symptoms. I knew that I was slowly healing.
Today, one of my coaching clients shared with me that when he has a new symptom he says, “Welcome to the party!” I wish I had had that attitude the first few months into my recovery. What a wonderful, positive way to look at your new or changing benzo withdrawal symptoms. Instead of expressing fear or frustration, a simple courageous invitation sets the tone. Of course, that statement may be said sarcastically, but even so, that’s better than shrinking in fear or feeling victimized! If you are still at a stage in your recovery where new symptoms announce their arrival, I hope that you can invite them to the party and make the best of things.
Eventually, new symptoms stopped occurring. I had a few windows—days when I felt pretty good. But of course, I’d be slammed back into the pit when a wave hit. I learned to ride the waves until they lost their energy by telling myself, “I’ve been down this road before.” I reminded myself that I had coped with waves of increased symptoms in the past, which meant I could do it again. I knew I’d be okay.
What we tell ourselves in benzo withdrawal is important. Of course, if you are deep in the “doom, gloom” phase of recovery, it will be almost impossible to convince yourself that anything positive can take place. However, it is important to at least go through the motions of having a positive attitude. Say the words, even if you don’t believe them. One day, you will!
Coping statements such as “This too shall pass,” and “One day at a time,” are helpful as well. What positive statement or reminder do you use to cope with benzo withdrawal symptoms? Please feel free to share them with us.
Jennifer, thank you, again! So far, I have not used a positive statement when a new symptom strikes, which they still are. But, now, after reading this great post, I will use a positive statement! Dan
Well, this is a timely post for me. When I woke up this morning, I was seeing spots. I was so worried, as this is a new symptom. I’m in a particularly crummy wave, like back to the beginning. Like Dan, I’ve not been very welcoming of symptoms, new or old, but I’m going to try today. Thank you for this post.
I am not positive today, but on days that I feel a little relief I tell myself that there IS light at the end of the tunnel,just keep going. The only way out is through. It’s a VERY long tunnel so it’s going to take some time to journey through it. Time, time, time is the only healer. After spending hundreds of dollars on various “get well quicker” things, I think my brain has finally figured this out, that it’s only time. Save your money everybody, for when we DO heal. And according to hundreds of success stories,including yours, Jennifer,we ALL heal in “time”. Thank you so much for all you say and do!
When I was deep in the throes of withdrawal I had a mantra that I repeated over and over as I paced.
“It’s only pain, it’s not harming you'”
It did help me to cope and calmed the anxiety.
Thank you Jenn for your web site and have a wonderful holiday
Thank you Jennifer. This post couldn’t.come at a better time. Three weeks ago, after 6months out, I started to get a few new symptoms. Imagine my disappointment right here at Christmas. Thought I was getting a little better and now don’t even think I will be able to share the holidays. Thank you for your constant encouragement. I just have to remind myself this will one day end. If you can do it as long as you did, I know I can get through it. You are an angel to continue to uplift people even when you are through the worst. God bless you and have a wonderful Christmas!
Hello Kathy, you are not alone this Christmas, the exact same thing has happened to me. If i can remember, I will pray for you. God bless you!
Thank you for this post
I like that idea of saying welcome to the party
I honestly admire people that can stay positive in this midst of excruciating pain
When I hit acute I couldn’t think, talk or do anything. This long taper sadly has not worked and I regret my reinstatement. I don’t think the taper works for everyone once you have kindled. I think I listened far too much on the internet rather than just getting off.. Afterall I wasn’t even on for very long and not even everyday. Now my nerves and Body are in 1000 worse shape. Trust yourself and not always what you read online. We all have our unique path.
It’s amazing to hear the struggle you endured and that you made it out healed. You deserve every minute of happiness. Are there any success stories specifically about akathisia? This is my most dreaded symptom and would love to hear others that healed from it