Acceptance is a powerful tool.
Practicing acceptance is a powerful tool that allows us to embrace the challenges and complexities of life with a compassionate and open heart. Acceptance during benzo withdrawal is vital to reducing our suffering and greasing the wheels for healing. Acceptance is acknowledging and embracing our thoughts, feelings, symptoms, and circumstances without judgment or resistance. In turn, acceptance helps us to cope and fosters personal growth, increasing our capacity for health and happiness. In this post, we will explore the concept of acceptance during benzo withdrawal and delve into ten tips to help you practice acceptance during your recovery and beyond.
The Importance of Acceptance
In benzo withdrawal, we may find ourselves bombarded with challenges: frightening symptoms, inability to take care of ourselves or to work, strained relationships, and losses of many kinds. These challenges add up, and we rail against life, shaking our fists at the doctors who inadvertently harmed us, and family and friends who don’t understand or support us. We rail against even ourselves. Practicing acceptance can provide a powerful antidote to these negative thoughts and emotions and help us develop a more compassionate and understanding healing journey.
Acceptance has been linked to numerous mental health benefits, including reduced anxiety and depression, improved self-esteem, and overall well-being. It can also help us build stronger relationships with others as we learn to accept and understand their thoughts, feelings, and experiences without judgment.
Ten Tips for Practicing Acceptance
- Mindfulness meditation
One of the most effective ways to practice acceptance is through mindfulness meditation. This form of meditation encourages us to focus on the present moment, observing our thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations without judgment. By cultivating a non-judgmental awareness, we can learn to accept our experiences and symptoms as they are rather than resisting them. It is in the resistance that we add to our suffering.
- Observing your thoughts
Practicing acceptance involves paying close attention to our thoughts and recognizing when we are judging, resisting, or attempting to change a situation that we cannot change. When you notice these patterns, gently bring your focus back to the present moment and remind yourself to accept the situation as it is. Remind yourself that you are safe, for it is in safety that our nervous system is at peace.
- Avoiding judgments
Developing a non-judgmental attitude is a key component of acceptance. This means treating ourselves and others with compassion and understanding, recognizing that everyone has their own unique experiences, thoughts, and emotions. By avoiding judgments, we can create a more accepting and empathetic mindset. We extend grace to others and ourselves.
- Cultivating gratitude
Focusing on the positive aspects of our lives and expressing gratitude for them can help shift our mindset from resistance to acceptance. By acknowledging the good in our lives, we can learn to appreciate what we have and accept the challenges and difficulties that come our way. It can be difficult to see the good in our lives when we are in benzo withdrawal because our nervous system is in the protect state of fight, flight, or freeze most of the time due to the downregulated GABA receptors. However, we can be mindful to think of the things we are grateful for: the sunrise, the breath in our lungs, our body’s ability to heal, etc.
- Letting go of control
Accepting that we cannot control everything in life is crucial to practicing acceptance. Embracing uncertainty and change as part of the human experience can help us let go of the need to control every aspect of our lives, allowing us to adapt and grow in the face of adversity. Living in the moment during benzo withdrawal helps us to stop focusing on when we will recover. Letting go of timelines and trying to control our healing process allows us more peace and less suffering.
- Developing self-compassion
Practicing acceptance involves being kind and compassionate towards ourselves at all times, including during benzo withdrawal. Recognize that it’s okay to have negative thoughts and emotions and that everyone experiences them. By cultivating self-compassion, we can learn to accept ourselves and our thoughts and feelings without judgment or criticism. And remember, everyone makes mistakes. No one is perfect.
- Seeking support
Surrounding ourselves with supportive people who encourage acceptance and understanding can make the journey toward a more accepting mindset easier. Share your feelings, thoughts, and experiences with those around you and listen to their stories, fostering a sense of connection and empathy. Join a positive, solution-oriented benzo support group such as Heal With Dr. Jenn. Learn coping skills that foster acceptance and help to accelerate healing from benzo withdrawal.
- Practicing patience
Acceptance takes time and consistent effort. Be patient with yourself as you work on embracing acceptance in your daily life. Recognize that progress may be slow and not getting it right all the time is a natural part of the process. Keep moving forward, and remember that every step, no matter how small, is a step towards a more accepting and compassionate life.
9. Focusing on what you can change
While accepting the things you can’t change is essential, focus on what you can do to improve your situation or mindset. This balance between acceptance and action can help you feel more empowered and proactive in your recovery process. For example, if you’re struggling with a relationship conflict, accept the aspects beyond your control and focus on improving your communication skills, setting boundaries, or seeking additional support. If you are struggling with a frightening but benign symptom, concentrate on ways you can cope with it so it is less frightening.
- Reflecting on past experiences
Think about times when you’ve faced adversity or difficulties and how you’ve grown from those experiences. This reflection can help you develop resilience and make it easier to embrace acceptance. Recognize that life is full of ups and downs, and each challenge presents an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Benzo withdrawal is no exception. After benzo withdrawal, most people report a deepening of happiness and a far greater capacity for strength, courage, confidence, and compassion.
Conclusion
Practicing acceptance is an ongoing journey that can lead to a more fulfilling, compassionate, and resilient life and helps reduce our suffering during benzo withdrawal. Incorporating these ten tips into your daily routine allows you to embrace life’s challenges and complexities with an open heart, ultimately fostering a greater sense of well-being and inner peace.
As you cultivate acceptance, remember that progress may be slow and missteps are inevitable. Embrace these challenges as opportunities for growth and learning, and remind yourself of the benefits of acceptance to your mental and emotional well-being.
By committing to practicing acceptance in your daily life, you are taking an essential step towards your healing and a happier, healthier, and more connected existence. Embrace the journey, and remember that every action, no matter how small, is a step towards a more accepting and compassionate life.
What are your thoughts about acceptance? How do you practice acceptance during benzo withdrawal? Leave a comment and join the conversation.
I’ve been off for a year now. I was on for 30 years. Should my receptors be healed by now? What do I do with all of the trauma?
Thank you🙏
Congrats on getting benzo free! That’s a wonderful accomplishment. A year of healing is not at all uncommon. It can take longer that we wish to heal, but we do, in time. Keep going!
Dr. Jenn, I was grateful to receive your email that you are back to blogging. This review and update on acceptance and the even more extensive list of symptoms really helped me to accept where I am today – the day between Good Friday and Resurrection Sunday. It is 6 years today that I have been off all psyche meds (antidepressants and benzos). You helped me make it through to a place where I was a lot better. I am in a set back now but do not feel as hopeless because I have – like you said – learned a lot and changed since those first years of withdrawal. God is helping me practice acceptance along with your 10 tips for doing so. Today I appreciate the reminders – just what I need on a lonely, difficult day. Thank you.
You are most welcome. I hope today, Easter Sunday, you find peace and comfort. Sending you healing energy.
Sometimes those dark days seem so lonely. I have them. I bring back to my remembrance that I have passed thru this way before and came out on the other side. The Lord was with me each step of the way. He understands my emotions and is never no never going to leave me. I’m praying soon the clouds will part and the sun will shine in your heart. While I waited thru those times I accepted that my emotions are just sensations that come and go. I realized there may be someone I come in contact that needs encouragement and a listening ear, it really helped my mood to encourage others. Take heart, the Lord is with you.
Sharon calif.
I am glad you have comfort. Keep healing! Thank you for adding your thoughts to the conversation.